Tag: Out of wedlock

Reality TV star Ese Eriata has slammed a social media user who criticized women for having children outside marriage. The exchange began after a follower wrote, “Every girl just dey born anyhow without being married, mmmh.” Reacting to the comment, Ese expressed disappointment at the judgmental mindset of people who fail to understand individual circumstances. “In as much as marriage is a good thing, some people don’t think or wonder why a person chose a certain path. You don’t know my past, you don’t know if I have trauma or have been abused, you don’t know if I have trust or anger issues I’m trying to heal from,” she wrote. She went on to explain that people face different personal battles that might delay marriage, saying some are taking time to study who they want to be with, heal from emotional wounds, or prepare themselves to be a better partner. “You don’t know if I’m mentally ready or still working on myself to become someone’s peace and trophy. All y’all want to do is get on that keypad and type rubbish because commenting is free. Mad people everywhere,” she added. Ese further condemned the double standards of society towards women, pointing out how they are criticized whether they choose to have children or remain unmarried. “You’ll hear them shouting ‘once you are 30+ and no husband, just have your kids,’ and when you do, they’ll say ‘where is the father? Single mother.’ When you wait on God till you’re 40+, they’ll say ‘as beautiful as you are, no child or husband.’ “When God finally brings love or a husband, they’ll say, ‘the man didn’t see younger girls; what is he doing with a single mother?’ And what’s flabbergasting in all of this is that majority of the people saying these things are women,” she lamented. Her response has sparked conversations online, with many praising her for speaking boldly against societal pressure and hypocrisy toward single mothers.